Monthly Archive for December, 2004

The new design is now online, as you’ve already noticed, (unless you’re reading this via RSS). If you find any problems with it, let me know. If the problem is that you just don’t like it, then kiss my bum.

The image I am using in the background was a beautiful piece of graphic by Precurser, of EndEffect.com, which I’ve sucked the colour and contrast out of. (I think his site’s currently down, cause he often does a redesign around New Year’s.) We’re still in communication about my using his image, so if it suddenly changes for another one, you’ll know why.

But enjoy the redesign. It’s best viewed at 1024 * 768 resolution, so right-click your Desktop, go Properties, then Settings, and change your Screen Resolution to 1024 * 768.

Yeah. Merry Christmas suckers!

I hope you all have a safe time doing whatever fun stuff you have planned. I’m off to the airport in a hour or so to pick up my Father, who is moving back to Toronto. 3 months has gone fast. I’m a little nervous to be honest, but excited too.

This week should see a lot of sitting around doing freakin nothing, and loving it. Hopefully some snowboarding, if I can just get me a snowboard. A little DJ-ing most likely. Should be a good week off. Can’t tell yet whether I’ll be blogging or not during the week. You’ll just have to pop in and see.

Oh, and my new design should go up tonight, or in the next couple of days. I’m just awaiting permission to use an image from another guy’s website. Plays the Hits will probably have to stay for now, as I have had no inspiration for a new title.

Merry Christmas.

…for Lee and Sarah!

No time like Christmas to get engaged. Good work Lee. w00t!

I’m working on a new site design, quite different to this one, and I have run into a slight problem. The look is very industrial, a lot of silver/grey and blue, and the name, “J Puddy Plays the Hits,” doesn’t seem to fit with it.

I really like the design, so the name might have to go. Any suggestions?

I highly recommend Songs to Burn Your Bridges By, by Project 86. It’s currently my favourite CD. How ironic.

It was indeed wrong of me to sight a book that I have not read. I retract that statement. I will not go back and edit my previous post, but I now regret saying it. As to my motives for public displays of affection with my girlfriend, she knows I love her. And it’s not because I am affectionate with her publicly. If the reason people are affectionate publicly is to show their Significant Others that they love them, then I know a load of loveless relationships.

Someone’s going to say, “Ha, there are loads of loveless relationships! My point exactly.” But whatever, I’ll let it stand. Maija knows I love her because of the way I treat her publicly and privately, the way I touch her, the way I speak to her, and the time and money I spend on her. Ask her. I know she loves me because of the things she makes me, the things she says to me, the time she spends with me, the way she touches me, the things other people tell she has said about me etc. etc. The list goes on.
When I am affectionate with her in public, it is (aside from simply loving her) to show the world that I love her. When I shout at the TACF Riverside Cafe, “I LOVE MAIJA MACLEOD!” that is also to tell that the world that I love her.

As to being upset about the infamous text messages, I honestly don’t know anymore. I never interpreted it as lesbianism between the two of them. Unfortunately, when I used that word in my first post, many people carried it out of the context it was meant for. The word carried more weight than I realized it would. For that, my apologies. Still though, I don’t know. Maybe I’m just sensitive about homosexual issues, and I jumped on it in a nervous panic. Or maybe while not being wrong in and of themselves, the messages were a little over the top. I honestly don’t know.

If I can have some constructive input from anyone, especially someone female, ie. Ninja, input away.

Incredibly selfish eh. Your mom’s incredibly selfish.

Anyway. So, the deal is folks, I’m not confused. I’m not caught up in a deep inner turmoil. I must have come across that way for so many people to respond in the way they did.

Let me explain further, as it seems necessary, maybe only to save my own ass.
Firstly… I too am an affectionate person. My primary love language is touch. Mel’s comment was more on track than most peoples. Yes I panicked a bit, and yes it’s largely my issue, but yes, there is also such a thing as unbalance. There are times when the affection between any guy and guy, and girl and girl, can be unhealthy simply because they are directing their affection at the wrong person.

I do not think that all girls who are affectionate with each other are lesbians. If you thought I thought that, then I label you an idgit for not properly reading my previous posts. What I do think is that some people (regardless of gender and marital status) have slightly misguided affections. I know that I am right in this, because A) people have told me I am, and B) there is a whole book devoted to the subject. It’s called Every Woman’s Battle. I’m serious. Read it. (I haven’t read it yet myself, but I plan too, once I finish Every Young Man’s Battle.)

To Mr Rude Pants Observer:

When you are frustrated because your girlfriend feels comfortable being touchy with her girlfriends, however she wont with you… you need to check yourself not her. Why are you frustrated sir? Is it because she is getting some positive attention from some of her close friends? Or is it because you are not the only person that is giving her that attention. With my objective point of view it is obvious that you are not confident and secure in the relationship.

You may be right. Or you may just be a girl who’s uncomfortable giving affection to her boyfriend. I am affectionate with my girlfriend because I love her and want everyone to know. I do not think it is unfair of me to ask the same from my girlfriend. By the by, she’s becoming more affection with me in public, because she is becoming more used to it, and more used to me. I think you are the one with the issue, my friend.

Honestly who tells their girlfriend not to hug her other friends?!?!

Umm… not me. You must have been reading the wrong blog. I never wrote that and I don’t even want to write that.

If you want to take on the role of the leader, then I sure hope you are leading in every other aspect of life.

I’m doing my best. I obviously have a lot to learn, but I’m aware of it, and aren’t afraid to deal with it.

Bottom line is, I don’t have a problem with the way my girlfriend treats me or her other friends. My problem is when someone is writing things to her that I would write to her. That person has her own boyfriend to write those things too. I don’t think it’s write that she was texting my girlfriend on a daily basis telling her that she loved her and missed her etc. The first time it happened, my lovely lady thought it was from me.

That’s my point. End of story. I don’t have a problem with female affection. If you read my previous post you would understand that. To everyone else, sorry for the confusion, at least you were kind about letting me think out loud.

So – after talking to Maija again, some married people, and others – my thoughts are thus:

The problem I have noticed (misplaced affection), is indeed a problem because:

Girl’s (or anyone for that matter) should not be giving/taking affection to/from anyone, that should be going to God or her Significant Other.

However, the problem is not as rampant or as serious as I had at first thought, because:

A. Girls are made to be more affectionate. It’s the side of God they represent. I did know this before I got onto this track, but I had forgotten it. I have since learned that for some girls they can’t express this affection due to pain from previous hurt in their life. Only once they receive healing are they able to express this love for one another.

B. It was partly my issue. Maija, who I love more than me, has in the past been uncomfortable showing me affection in front of others. So all I would see was her being touchy and feely with other girls, and then being a little more distant with me. But she’s getting much better. Hehe, anyone at her house party last night could have seen her kissing me plenty of times. W00T! (Haha, I’m sooo getting in trouble for this one.)

Remember my argument that all this was to do with an infiltration of subversive lesbianism from the feminist movement? Haha, well Maija pointed out that it’s equally likely that I blame lesbianism because it is so rampant, and acceptable, and if you see anything along those lines, you can just say, “Oh, they’re lesbians.”

So the argument for is the same as the argument against. I think this post is at the same time the most important of all my previous posts in this theme, and the least coherent. I hope it makes sense to you.

On to lighter things: I got a new CD today.